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TMI Tuesday: 02-03-09 February 3, 2009

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Bare with me (yet again lately…), I’ve been so tired and beat up at work lately, I feel like I could fall asleep any second.  The last few mornings I barely want to get up, and I’ve been going to bed early as well.

I still owe all you the Double Date story (2 weeks already….Doh!), and another quickie I had on this past Friday.  But hopefully this installment of TMI will get my creative juices flowing…

1.  When you sleep with someone, how much or how little contact do you like to have?

Relatively speaking, if you mean sleep as in actual ’sleep’ and not sex, then I like very little contact.  An occasion back scratch, rub, or contact is ‘okay’ to let me know you’re there I suppose, but I think most guys like to have a lot of room in bed to toss and turn.  I don’t like feeling constrained (unless it’s a game or a part of foreplay *wink*), so I like a nice free space buffer zone around my body.  Now if we’re talking sleep as in ’sex’…well then of course I want as much contact as possible.

2.  What do you think is the appropriate amount of time for a divorce parent to date before introducing the kids to the ‘new special’ person in their life?

I don’t think it is appropriate at all if there is any chance of reconciliation with a spouse.  If indeed there is no hope of reconciliation with an ex, then I would say it must be quite some time…enough time that you and the new person have really sat down and spoke about the kids and impact it may have on the relationship and if that person is mature and responsible in their own lives before introducing them to your kids.  I’d err on the side of caution and conservatism here, and hopefully a strong foundation is in place for a long term union…not a rebound fling or casual thing.

3.  Which ONE do you wish you had more of in bed (romance, experimentation, or foreplay?

My first thought is experimentation because I thinks there’s still a few things out there I’d like to try, but after those are achieved…how much more experimenting can their be if I am happy?  So maybe my answer really is ‘foreplay’….I like foreplay.

4.  What do you think makes a great kiss?

Oh…tough one to put into words.  Without too many cliches and PC answers, a great kiss to me is: electricity throughout my body…alternating between soft and tender and aggressive and hard.  Warm, passionate and the ability to take my mind off of any other care in the world.  Something that I will remember and talk about in my own head for days on end.  It’s feels beyond just ‘right’, but like two puzzle pieces fitting together.

5.  Describe your sex life in two words.

Lackadaisical reciprocation.

Bonus: Do you remember a time when you were having sex that you smile or even laugh about now?  Do Tell….

Chocolate cake & Bella….somewhere in my archives.

TMI Tuesday: 1-20-09 January 20, 2009

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tmi11. Have you ever dated/married purely for money?

No, but sometimes I wish I had.  No, in all seriousness, I’ve never been one to look at money as the bottom line on a relationship.  But I’d be lying if I didn’t state I’d think it be nice to meet someone who actually was a bit well off.  I’m not a pig headed man who thinks it’s a mans obligation to be the bread winner.  If I dated a girl who made more than me, I’d be okay with that.  Unfortunately it seems my lot in life to meet women who tend to financially struggle.

2. What is your type?

 

I’m not exactly sure what this question really entails, but I suppose my ‘type’ would be someone who is genuinely hearted, compassionate and empathetic to others.  Someone who believes in God and likes animals and children.  I like women that are slightly athletic and intelligent.  I like a certain degree of spontaneity and adventure.  I like a woman who know how to dress for the occassion….meaning jeans and cowboys boots at the rodeo, elegant dress for a ball, provactive clothing at a club, and sexy lingerie in the bedroom.  I like girls that are clean, wear the appropriate amount of makeup and exude a level of sexy and confident playfullness without being arrougant and stuck up.  A bit on the tall side, tan lines a plus.  A passionate kisser and a streak of naughty in them.

3. What is the best sex game you have ever played?

I like  a little roll playing on occasion, but if we’re talking actual ‘games’ like board/card games….then I suppose I enjoyed strip poker with Michelle back in the day, some blindfold/trust games with Bella, and some naughty game I played with Karen once where one die had body parts on it, the other was an action verb to perform.

4. Have you ever given or received an orgasm from a person whose last name you did not know?

Yup.  On both accounts.  Had a few enocunters in college where we never exchanged last names.  One was in an alley way I once told you all about.  No clue on who she was.

5. Have you ever masturbated in front of a sexual partner?

Oh yeah.  I’ve taped myself once for a girl, and she did the same in kind.  I had one girl put on a show for me on my bed as I sat in a chair and watched, and yet another asked me to masterbate on her both in the shower and on her bed as she awaited me to cum on naked body.  Now that I think about it, I can’t think of a girl who hasn’t done it in front of me that I was with.  But each experience and memory is unique in it’s own way.  If I’m lucky….I may try and play some of these questions back out in one capacity or another tonight.

Bonus (as in optional):At what age do you think men and women reach their sexual peak? Do you think you have hit yours yet?

 

I’ve once heard men reach their peak in their late teens, or early 20’s.  I don’t think that applies to me, or my male friends.  I’ve been feeling pretty sexual for almost 20 years now and I think I’m just as randy today as I was when I was 19…and my friends I’ve known for years are just as horny today too.  Hopefully I haven’t hit mine yet….a lot of it depends on the partner and what they can get out of you as well.

 

On the flip side I hear more and more about women peaking in their 40’s…hence maybe the cougar syndrome and MILF factor.  I think women are definetly more in-tune with their bodies beginning in their late 20’s and throughout their 30’s.  Looking back, sex with 30-something women was indeed better than my first few girlfriends in my late teens…but it depends on the girl/woman.  Bella, Sharyn, Karen were leap years ahead of some other women who were older than them or about the same age.  So I don’t think I could really qualify or quantify this premise.

TMI Tuesday… January 13, 2009

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tmiYeah, it’s not Tuesday Turn-ons….I still haven’t picked a topic for that today, but maybe this will give you a little more insight on me, Nathan.

1. On a scale of 1 to 10, how satisfied are you with your sex life?

Unfortunately, the more I think about it, the higher the number was a few years back.  Not sure I ever achieved an actual ‘10′…I suppose that would mean my girlfriends were just as creative, willing, aggressive and naughty as I am….and sadly that hasn’t happened in quite some time.  I suppose the highest moments were my college years and maybe just after college.  Solid 8’s many a time.  Last year I think I may have been at my lowest…3…and I’d chalk up one of those points due to my own solo efforts.  Right now April has taken slight more interest in her activities in the bedroom, so maybe it’s a borderline 5 right now (up from 4).  Yikes, I’m kinda getting depressed just reading this as I write.  I haven’t had much time as of late to seek out more enlightened partners or have the energy to sit down and tell April my concerns.

2. If someone shoves you up against the wall while kissing you, your reaction is?

Release.  Ladies, beleive it or not, once ina  blue moon a man woudl be very excited if a woman takes the gumption be agressive and take charge.  I’d probably submit and relish the moment in relaxed bliss….my mind going a million miles an hour wondering if she’ll go further, go south, etc.  But seeing that I can be a freak at times, I’d also probably wonder if my breath is fresh and if I have clean undies on.

3. What is the most romantic thing anyone has ever said or done to you?

Wow, this is a very tough question to answer and I’m not sure there is one incident that just blows me away above any other.  Different girlfriends through the years have done special things for me that made me feel special.  One girl sent me on a scavenger hunt at a local mall that shop owners were in on….at the end was a clue to a hotel room where she was waiting in lingerie.  There was a lot of effort in that one.  Another used to write me actual love letters that were very sweet.  Another used to just stare in my eyes and whisper….her words always magic and sultry…I believed everything she told me…it seemed very genuine and heartfelt.  But I’m not sure even the best ones I could qualify as overly ‘romantic’ in the truest sense of the word.

4. Where is the most unusual place you have ever had sex?

I literally had sex once outside of a bar, in a back alleyway, between dumpsters, at 1:30am.  It was primal, public, and perhaps a bit of a rush in the fear of getting caught.

5. How do you like to be kissed?

Passionately and soft and hungry-like.  I think I am closer to a woman in thsi regard moreso than being a man.  I like tender lips on my ears.  I like girls who kiss my neck.  But a tender, soft, and exploring kiss with an open mouth sets my motors in motion.

Bonus: Most embarrasing sexual moment?

I wrote about this a long time ago, but once when Mary was straddling me on top and we both climaxed and sat there for a few minutes I began to relax.  When Mary dismounted, I noticed the condom was no longer on my person.  Then to my horror, I watched Mary basically fist herself in her attempts to fish it out of herself.  As this scene unfolded for what seemed like forever I was very slack jawed and mentally scarred.

TMI Tuesday…a day late November 12, 2008

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I shamelessly stole these questions from another site as I thought they were interesting and piqued my own interest on how I recall my past, my likes, my thoughts.  So here’s a bit more of my sordid (or not so sordid) side:

  1. Ever Been Skinny dipping?  Yes, only a handful of times.  Each time they were with a girlfriend I had been with for some time other than a single one night stand I had in Hawaii many years ago.  That particular instance was in the warm Pacific Ocean, very late at night with a girl who actually picked me up instead of the other way around.  The other few times include mostly spa’s and a pool.  They all were unplanned, and just sort of happened.  Something is very liberating and sexually gratifying shedding your suit under a summer night full of stars, the sound of a little splashing and the breathing of another person near by.
  2. How often do you kiss or make out without it simply being a foreplay activity?  Unfortunately, not enough the last few years.  When I was younger, inimate kissing was a much more active part of my life and an activity I actually miss much more than one would think.  It happened much more with my High School and college girlfriends and dating than it has been as of late.  I like it a lot.  One of the reasons I may not do it so much anymore is sometimes the girls smoke…and it just tastes like shit.  Other times, it seems I am just not as emotionally close to them as I was with past girlfriends.
  3. On a scale of 1-10, how content are you with life? (10 is highest).  Do you think ‘content’ and ‘happy’ are the same thing.  If I am to be completly honest with all of you and more so myself, I’d say ‘5′.  There are a lot of things I thought I would have done or accomplished by now that I haven’t.  Some were in my control and I fucked it up.  Some things were out of my control…I often worry about job, finances, family, friends.  I’ve had people in the past tell me somewhere along the lines of life I changed.  I used to be the life of the party, always upbeat, full of life, take no prisoners and now I admit somedays I think I’ve lost my smile.  I can’t point to one exact thing…I think it’s been a combination of many things over the years.  My heart has been broken, I’ve been lied and to, cheated on, manipulated.  I’ve lost my job once, and my shoulder surgeries and a few other minor injuries have affected me in ways that I think hold me back.  And no, I do not think ‘content’ and ‘happy’ are the same thing.  Sometimes I equate content with just being average or complacent….not happy at all, looking forward to the next event with joy.
  4. What do you do to relieve stress?  A good work out in the gym does wonders for me.  There’s nothing like the feeling of pressing 300 lbs on my chest and feeling pumoed up afterwards.  I’m in my own world during my workouts.  Other things include pouring myself a favorite drink, playing video games, driving in my car with the stereo very loud, turning off my cell phone, and masturbation. 
  5. What was the special trait in your first lover that made you decide that they were “the one?”  She was genuine towards me.  I truly believe even to this day when I spoke about anything, she listened.  The way she would look at me in my eyes.  Her general favorable attitude towards me.  I guess to some it all up, I look back now and really, honestly believe in all my heart she loved me first at the time.
  6. Bonus: How old were you when you first has sex?  This isn’t news to anyone who’s read my blog over the years.  I was 18.  I had no idea what I was doing, as most guys don’t the first time.  Looking back, I have mixed feeling about the experience.  It wasn’t that it was with the wrong person, it was the wrong place and perhaps I put too much pressure on myself to ‘get it done’ to proce something to myself the enjoyment for both her and I may have been lost in translation.  The day after was very emotional for me and there was some thoughts, even at 18, perhaps I was too immature to deal with internally.  It’s been 2 decades now, and if I ever rean into my first ‘lover’ again, I think I’d apologize to her and also thank her for what a special person she was.  I don’t think I let her know just how much she meant to me back then, and my first time may have had some wrong motivations behind it, and it was not her doing at all.

TMI Tuesday June 17, 2008

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Heh, for lack of anything new, I noticed a few of the blogs on the circuit today have a TMI Tuesday category, and I thinks it’s a cool idea.  Today I came across this same Q&A session from about 4 other like minded blogs (which reminds me….I need to update my links again…found some great new ones, and I need to remove some of the older ones that appear to be dead), and so basically I’m in rip-off mode today.

Question #1: What is your favorite color lingerie?  I personally like the colors of black, teal/turqoise, natural (neutral/tan/beige), and white (especially if lace material on a tan body) or any combination thereof such as teal trimmed in black.  I’ll go into further detail and say I like body suits, baby dolls, farter belts and stocking.  Not too keen on corny outfits like nurse uniforms or French Maid outfits.

Question #2: Do you have a porn collection?  Yes, but it has changed over the years.  When I first was on my own, VHS was all the rage (pre DVD), so I had collected quite a few VHS tapes.  Mostly they are all amateur or gonzo variety (AKA: Reality based – no script or plot) and many Randy West Up & Cummers titles.  They are mostly dated now…produced in the 90’s and the haircuts, makeup, and production values are starting to show.  I rally hate to get rid of them as I think of them more as collector items now.  Quite honestly I may watch one VHS tape every 4-5 months now from my collection.  They just seem to take up space now and I’m too lazy to convert them all to DVD.  I have a few commercially produced DVD’s, but very few.  Lately, my collection consists of amateur content I have downloaded and burned to either CD’s or DVD’s I watch on my PC.  I have to say more than is probably healthy….my biggest problem is, I watch once and move on to the next, probably why my collection is bigger than is ‘normal’.  I have no magazines….I actually used to buy an occasional Penthouse, Playboy and a few random others, but they have all been thrown out at this point.  I have a few personal pictures of past girlfriends, both knowingly posed and some not knowing….some bring back great memories, others not so much anymore.

Question #3: Do you have any fetishes?  I don’t think mine are very bizarre at all and borderline tame.  I love denim jeans.  I loved girls in cowboy boots.  I love tan lines.  I enjoy hoop earing sand frost lipstick (a holdover from the 80’s?…probably my Miami Vice phase).  I think my weirdest one is I kinda like girls who have minor gimp injuries….like bandaged ankles and broken wrists….like I want to nurse them back to health or something mentally odd like that.

Question #4: What is your favorite place to have sex?  This is harder than I thought to give one answer.  I like sex in semi-public areas…but not too public…like maybe a jacuzzi or a secluded beach or park or car where there may be some elment of danger of getting caught.  Otherwise in a house I guess I like the bathroom and living rooms and balconies….I think bedrooms are very cliche and boring.  I always like sex in hotel rooms…I really let down my hair I guess when I realize I’m not the one cleaning up the next day (sorry house keeping).

Question #5: Do you like to scratch, bite, pull hair, etc?  Do you like it being done to you in return?  I like to pull hair once in a while when I’m feeling a little rough, maybe an occasional bite on the ass cheek or neck.  In return, I like when a woman nibbles on my ear, kisses my neck, tries to play a little rough by ‘attempting’ to pin me down or force herself on me…as long as it doesn’t hurt.

Bonus: Do you think the number of sexual partners is below average, average, or above average, and how does that make you feel?  This one is really hard to compare.  I guess if I were to compare myselves to my friends and family and coworkers (if they are being honest with me), I’m probably above average.  Now, if I what I read on other blogs is true or compare my self to recent studies (assuming people are telling the truth) I am probaly below average to average.  How do I feel?  Well, I can honestly say I am not always proud of every incident.  There are some I wish never happened because they hurt friendships, I don’t remember them as well as I think I should have, the feelings weren’t 100% reciprocated.  On the other hand there are a few times I turned sex down, and now I wonder why I did, and I wonder if those were missed opportunities for meaningful relationships.  I guess I don’t know how I feel….Despite what I write here, I do not go around in public and brag or boast about conquests…outside these posts, I think my friends would be very surprised and shocked if I told them my secrets.  Then again, there are weeks and even months that I fee