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TMI Tuesday… January 13, 2009

Posted by Nathan in April, Mary, Random Musings.
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tmiYeah, it’s not Tuesday Turn-ons….I still haven’t picked a topic for that today, but maybe this will give you a little more insight on me, Nathan.

1. On a scale of 1 to 10, how satisfied are you with your sex life?

Unfortunately, the more I think about it, the higher the number was a few years back.  Not sure I ever achieved an actual ‘10′…I suppose that would mean my girlfriends were just as creative, willing, aggressive and naughty as I am….and sadly that hasn’t happened in quite some time.  I suppose the highest moments were my college years and maybe just after college.  Solid 8’s many a time.  Last year I think I may have been at my lowest…3…and I’d chalk up one of those points due to my own solo efforts.  Right now April has taken slight more interest in her activities in the bedroom, so maybe it’s a borderline 5 right now (up from 4).  Yikes, I’m kinda getting depressed just reading this as I write.  I haven’t had much time as of late to seek out more enlightened partners or have the energy to sit down and tell April my concerns.

2. If someone shoves you up against the wall while kissing you, your reaction is?

Release.  Ladies, beleive it or not, once ina  blue moon a man woudl be very excited if a woman takes the gumption be agressive and take charge.  I’d probably submit and relish the moment in relaxed bliss….my mind going a million miles an hour wondering if she’ll go further, go south, etc.  But seeing that I can be a freak at times, I’d also probably wonder if my breath is fresh and if I have clean undies on.

3. What is the most romantic thing anyone has ever said or done to you?

Wow, this is a very tough question to answer and I’m not sure there is one incident that just blows me away above any other.  Different girlfriends through the years have done special things for me that made me feel special.  One girl sent me on a scavenger hunt at a local mall that shop owners were in on….at the end was a clue to a hotel room where she was waiting in lingerie.  There was a lot of effort in that one.  Another used to write me actual love letters that were very sweet.  Another used to just stare in my eyes and whisper….her words always magic and sultry…I believed everything she told me…it seemed very genuine and heartfelt.  But I’m not sure even the best ones I could qualify as overly ‘romantic’ in the truest sense of the word.

4. Where is the most unusual place you have ever had sex?

I literally had sex once outside of a bar, in a back alleyway, between dumpsters, at 1:30am.  It was primal, public, and perhaps a bit of a rush in the fear of getting caught.

5. How do you like to be kissed?

Passionately and soft and hungry-like.  I think I am closer to a woman in thsi regard moreso than being a man.  I like tender lips on my ears.  I like girls who kiss my neck.  But a tender, soft, and exploring kiss with an open mouth sets my motors in motion.

Bonus: Most embarrasing sexual moment?

I wrote about this a long time ago, but once when Mary was straddling me on top and we both climaxed and sat there for a few minutes I began to relax.  When Mary dismounted, I noticed the condom was no longer on my person.  Then to my horror, I watched Mary basically fist herself in her attempts to fish it out of herself.  As this scene unfolded for what seemed like forever I was very slack jawed and mentally scarred.

TMI Tuesday…a day late November 12, 2008

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I shamelessly stole these questions from another site as I thought they were interesting and piqued my own interest on how I recall my past, my likes, my thoughts.  So here’s a bit more of my sordid (or not so sordid) side:

  1. Ever Been Skinny dipping?  Yes, only a handful of times.  Each time they were with a girlfriend I had been with for some time other than a single one night stand I had in Hawaii many years ago.  That particular instance was in the warm Pacific Ocean, very late at night with a girl who actually picked me up instead of the other way around.  The other few times include mostly spa’s and a pool.  They all were unplanned, and just sort of happened.  Something is very liberating and sexually gratifying shedding your suit under a summer night full of stars, the sound of a little splashing and the breathing of another person near by.
  2. How often do you kiss or make out without it simply being a foreplay activity?  Unfortunately, not enough the last few years.  When I was younger, inimate kissing was a much more active part of my life and an activity I actually miss much more than one would think.  It happened much more with my High School and college girlfriends and dating than it has been as of late.  I like it a lot.  One of the reasons I may not do it so much anymore is sometimes the girls smoke…and it just tastes like shit.  Other times, it seems I am just not as emotionally close to them as I was with past girlfriends.
  3. On a scale of 1-10, how content are you with life? (10 is highest).  Do you think ‘content’ and ‘happy’ are the same thing.  If I am to be completly honest with all of you and more so myself, I’d say ‘5′.  There are a lot of things I thought I would have done or accomplished by now that I haven’t.  Some were in my control and I fucked it up.  Some things were out of my control…I often worry about job, finances, family, friends.  I’ve had people in the past tell me somewhere along the lines of life I changed.  I used to be the life of the party, always upbeat, full of life, take no prisoners and now I admit somedays I think I’ve lost my smile.  I can’t point to one exact thing…I think it’s been a combination of many things over the years.  My heart has been broken, I’ve been lied and to, cheated on, manipulated.  I’ve lost my job once, and my shoulder surgeries and a few other minor injuries have affected me in ways that I think hold me back.  And no, I do not think ‘content’ and ‘happy’ are the same thing.  Sometimes I equate content with just being average or complacent….not happy at all, looking forward to the next event with joy.
  4. What do you do to relieve stress?  A good work out in the gym does wonders for me.  There’s nothing like the feeling of pressing 300 lbs on my chest and feeling pumoed up afterwards.  I’m in my own world during my workouts.  Other things include pouring myself a favorite drink, playing video games, driving in my car with the stereo very loud, turning off my cell phone, and masturbation. 
  5. What was the special trait in your first lover that made you decide that they were “the one?”  She was genuine towards me.  I truly believe even to this day when I spoke about anything, she listened.  The way she would look at me in my eyes.  Her general favorable attitude towards me.  I guess to some it all up, I look back now and really, honestly believe in all my heart she loved me first at the time.
  6. Bonus: How old were you when you first has sex?  This isn’t news to anyone who’s read my blog over the years.  I was 18.  I had no idea what I was doing, as most guys don’t the first time.  Looking back, I have mixed feeling about the experience.  It wasn’t that it was with the wrong person, it was the wrong place and perhaps I put too much pressure on myself to ‘get it done’ to proce something to myself the enjoyment for both her and I may have been lost in translation.  The day after was very emotional for me and there was some thoughts, even at 18, perhaps I was too immature to deal with internally.  It’s been 2 decades now, and if I ever rean into my first ‘lover’ again, I think I’d apologize to her and also thank her for what a special person she was.  I don’t think I let her know just how much she meant to me back then, and my first time may have had some wrong motivations behind it, and it was not her doing at all.