Nate’s Place

I don’t know what urged me to do an e-mail clean up today, or why I’m such a pack rat when it comes to e-mail in general, but I’m not the best person in keeping my inbox clean and up to date.  As a result I have emails saved all the way back from 2001 if you can believe that and my inbox has something like 800+ messages.

So today I decided to start cleaning them up.  Many of them are from old subscription sites I may have paid for at one time, the obligatory spam, a few friends….but image my surprise when I came across a trove of saved tidbits from SexyBlondeXOXO from years past.

Taking a brief gander of some of them instantly transported me back to our first few flirtations and subsequent sexual meets that I still rank up there in my top 5.  If I really sit and think about it, I even say SexyBlondeXOXO was in my top 3, along side both Bella and Sharyn.  It was purely physical, right from the start, but now that I’m a bit older (and hopefully wiser), I’m beginning to wonder if I could have ever taken this purely sexual relationship to the next level and have a meaningful boyfriend/girlfriend relationship with her today.

I’m gonna do something I have never done before, because I figure I can’t really get in trouble since six years have now passed…..I’m gonna share some of our emails with you.  Wow…..six years.  Everytime I look at the date stamps back in August of 2003 I can’t believe how much time has gone by…..and I do indeed think about her from time to time.

Anyway, without further ado (in some chronological order and commentary):

Nathan # 1: Good afternoon.  Thanks for writing me, and I did indeed read your profile.  To answer you quick question, that picture was of me in the boat holding the small aligator was when I was in Louisana almost 2 years ago on vacation with my best friend.  Went out there for the XXXXXXXXX festival.  So, since you wrote me maybe you can give me a starting point where to begin a chat.  I’m not that great at ‘ice-breaking’ moments…I prefer to talk to someone as if I already know them…get past that awkward opening moment and move on from there. Anyway, your profile is intriguing, and since you offered a picture, I’d like to take you up on it. Regards, -Nathan

Commentary: I belonged to an adult ’swing’ site at the time and Sexy first wrote me I guess after seeing my profile, so of course I wrote her back once she gave me her real email address.  I had a few pictures on there, PG-13, of course, and the one she is referring to is me in a white ribbed tank top, holding a real live baby aligator.

Sexy #1: Hi Nathan, Thanks for writing me back. I’m enclosing a photo.  Please let me know if you’re still interested. Thanks, – Sexy.

Commentary: She sent me two photos that day and I still have them.  They are both somewhat grainy pictures as I’m sure they were taken sometime prior to 2003.  The first is a close-up of her face and chest.  Her blue eyes and perfect complexion are just stunning.  The picture is cropped in such a way that when I say ‘chest’, it looks like a bikini top with ample cleavage, but her arms and rest of her body are cropped out.  The second picture is her standing far from the camera in a crowd.  She got these huge sun-glasses on that you can’s see her face and she’s holding a beer.  What I do notice is that she has very 90’s style denim jeans on, incredibly tan as her midriff is showing, and she has a very slender waistline.  These aren’t the most detailed pictures in the world, but to say I lucked out by her contacting me first (and that she was single) is an understatement of epic proportions!

Nathan #2:  XXXX, (like the spelling of that name). What can I say…if I may be as so bold to say (and in
a very flattering way), your pics are smokin’.  Very attractive woman, and I’d be silly to say I wasn’t
interested. (Okay, maybe I need to work on taming my confidence and boldness, but hey, life is too short to
dilly dally.  OMG, did I just say “Dilly Dally”?). Anyway, on a related note. I did read your profile again to make sure we were on the same page.  So at this point I think I brought the ball, but it’s in your court.  Tell me how you would like to proceed from here…chat more, talk on phone, meet for coffee or drink…Okay, that last one may be a bit bold, but ya know I was gonna ask next time anyway   Tell me what you are interested in?  Or you can ask me questions, and I’ll tell you…no holds barred. Look forward to hearing from you again, -Nathan.

Sexy #2:  Hi Nathan,  To be honest, I’m not sure what I’m looking for.  I figure I’ll know when I find it.  Are you really into the swinging life style.  If you are, have you had a lot of experiences?  I think I just put a profile up to see what would happen and to check out the site.  However, you caught my eye and I wanted to contact you.  As for my profile, some of the answers are not correct.  Some of the multiple choice answers I didn’t answer correctly because, a friend of mine is on that site, and I didn’t want him to know I was on there.  But, you can ask me anything.  I’m a flight attendant and I just flew in from NY and I’m off tomorrow.  You can call me if you’d like.  I’m off tomorrow.  My number is XXX-XXX-XXXX.  Have a great day! – Sexy

Commentary:  Ah, to read my general banter of introductions going back and forth at this point if both a bit funny and humilating.  I’m sure back in 2003 I thought I was smooth shit…but reading this now, I may have come across a bit dorky.   Her telephone number is no longer in service (I just tried…haha), but she seems pretty forward about her own ‘experimenting’ phases, if you will.  At this point I do believe we did start speaking by phone back and forth for a few days before we pick up again via email.  She either left me a voice mail message on my cell phone or sent me another email in which I write the following disseration (ugh):

Nathan #3:  Good morning XXXXX,  You’ll have to let me know which answers of yours are different.  Is the man you don’t want to discover you a past boyfriend or someone you dated?  Experience: Well I usually am a monogamous type of person and I don’t believe in breaking up marriages or being there to pick up the broken hearts of jilted girlfriends.  I’d like to think I’m pretty selective…that is..I am not just out there to do the deed.  As nutty as this may sound most guys get a bad rap when it comes to sex…that is the stereotype is that is all we are looking for.  On the contrary, anyone can have sex, but respecting the other person, having chemistry with them, actually getting along with them, and being attractive and clean are very important to me.  So to answer your question: a little bit of experience, but I am pretty selective (gosh that makes me sound like a snob)..She must have a good head on her shoulders and not be pyschotic (sp?).  I’ve been made a few aquaintences, but not all of them have led to bed and I have no regrets about that.  You as a person have to know your gut feeling and trust your instincts and know when tosay ‘No’.  Anyway, I am a clean person who believes in safe practices…No drugs, I don’t smoke, I do socially drink.  Perosnal hygiene and grooming are important as well. Intimate encounters with me are not to be taken lightly:  That is to say again, sex is sex, but ecstasy and fun are soo much more.  I enjoy long foreplay, massages (giving and receiving), the atmosphere, the lighting, the music,….I like to think my fantasies are akin to a build up very similar to 9 1/2 weeks, or Wild Orchids….erotic.  That is a turn on to me.  So what am I looking for: A friend without too many attachments to have fun from time to time.  No pressures, private (but we can go out in public)…someone to have a few drinks with…dinner at a nice place, maybe a picnic or a drive and maybe a little naughty behavior when we are secluded.  I am not a stalker and I am not a guy who calls 10 times a day…maybe a few times a week at most.  Wow, that’s pretty much laying it on the line…so hopefully that doesn’t scare you away.  I’m just 100% honest upfront about it.  Regards,  -Nathan.

Commentary:  Whoa, that was a mouthfull I put out there.  I figure we had talked a few times on the phone and traded a few e-mails at this point….Time to put our money where our mouths are, So I lay it out there and it’s up to her to tell me if she wants to move forward of this is all a bad idea.  So I’m very happy when I receive the following response:

Sexy #3:  You sound great and looking for the same thing that I’m looking for.  I hate pressure.  The guy on XXXX that I’m trying to avoid, is a guy I met on XXXX (another site).  I’m no longer seeing him, but, I would just rather him not know I’m on there.  I’m not normally the type of person who puts an ad on XXXX, so I’d rather no one who knows me know that I’m on there.  I got your message a few minutes ago.  Sorry, I was out running some errands.  I’ll be leaving here again to go to the pool at noon.  But, I’ll be home later today.  The number I gave you is my home number.  I started my own business a few months ago and it rings into my apartment.  I’m also a flight attendant for XXXXXX.  I can’t remember everything that is wrong on my profile, but here’s a few of the things.  I live in XXXXXX, I don’t have a Masters degree, only a BA.  I have a sports car, not a SUV.  I’m 5′7″ not 5′5″.  I never do drugs.  My birthday is XXXX 5th, not the 1st.  That’s all I can remember right now.  Have you ever been to XXXXXX ? I hope you’re having a great day!!  Talk to you soon. – Sexy

Commentary: Well, things seem to be moving forward at this point and we are ready to meet in person…

To be continued…..